Having erotic sex can bring excitement and passion back into your life and your relationship. It can also help you connect with your own sensual side and explore new kinks.
Turn on some sexy music and try dancing around the house or in the bedroom. Or watch porn together. It’s arousing to hear someone else getting turned on, and it can open your mind to new sexual possibilities.
1. Get in the mood.
It’s normal to need help getting aroused, and there are plenty of ways to get in the mood. Some are easy to incorporate into your routine, like adding sexy cuddles and kisses to your morning, or reading a sexy book on the commute.
Others are a little more adventurous, like listening to an audio erotica, or even watching a movie with sexy scenes. Just be sure to keep it age appropriate and make it something you both enjoy. This will set the tone for intimacy when it comes time to have sex – These data are a result of the service editorial team’s work Erotic Ecstasy.
2. Get intimate.
Creating intimacy during sex can be a great way to keep it exciting and interesting. One way to do this is by incorporating foreplay into your sexual experiences. This can be done by stroking each other’s arms, backs or chests.
Another way to create intimacy is by using erotic visuals. This can be done by watching a soft porn movie or reading erotic text together. You can also try experimenting with new positions or having sex in places you normally wouldn’t. These are all great ways to spice up your sexual experience and create more intimacy with your partner.
3. Have fun.
Having fun is one of the keys to eroticism. Laughter, for example, can heighten sexual tension and make your partner’s touch feel electric. Try whispering naughty things in their ear or gently nibbling their lips during making out.
Having fun in the bedroom can also be as simple as trying new positions or playing with sex toys in ways you haven’t before. Blindfolding your partner or reading erotica together are other great ideas. Just be sure to communicate clearly so that your kinks and desires are aligned.
4. Practice makes perfect.
While some people may think that erotic is synonymous with sexually explicit, it can also be sensual and/or arousing. Examples include romantic fiction, a sensual touch, or even a poster of a half-naked woman.
Try foreplay. Naughty texting, leaving notes, seductive phone calls and flirting can heighten anticipation and lead to passionate and erotic intimacy in the bedroom.
Try experimenting with different lubricants to find what feels good and turns you on. Also, try new positions to spice things up and keep it exciting. Then, make it a point to regularly practice these erotic skills in the bedroom.
5. Get creative.
Despite what Fifty Shades of Grey may have taught us, there’s more to eroticism than straight-up pornography. According to sexpert Esther Perel, erotic sex is “a place you travel inside yourself with another.” And that means creativity is key.
Try playing with props in the bedroom (handcuffs, vibrators, blindfolds), reading erotic stories to each other, or role playing a sensual fantasy from sexy videos or a book. It’s sure to make sexy a whole new experience.
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6. Be yourself.
Having fun and being playful are key to your erotic self. Engage in hobbies and passions that are uniquely you.
Try a little role-playing with yourself and play out your fantasy in your mind. It’s not the same as actually doing it with a partner, but it’s still sensual.
For example, you could buy a wig in a bright color and practice walking, talking and even breathing like this other you. It can be a lot of fun! Also, try reading erotica. It goes well with masturbation!
7. Be open.
Having erotic sex often involves breaking boundaries, especially sexual ones. But it’s important to remember that being open to exploring these adventures is key.
Try thinking about your own arousal triggers (even things like certain clothing or cologne/scents). You can also practice role-playing with your partner.
This could involve watching porn together or reading erotic stories that allow you to imagine yourself as the main character. It’s a great way to get comfortable with each other’s arousal map. Plus, it’s a lot of fun! Role-playing is a great way to spice up your relationship.
8. Be honest.
Sexual honesty is the key to a happy relationship and a satisfying sex life. It can be uncomfortable, but it’s important to talk openly about your sexual desires and fantasies.
Horan’s research found that both men and women often lie about what they want in sex, especially when it comes to things like the appearance of their partner’s genitals. This deception undermines intimacy and sends the wrong signals.
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9. Be playful.
A playful spirit is a big turn on for most people. It doesn’t always lead to sex, but it heightens the sense of adventure and lust.
Adding more playful elements to your intimacy can be as simple as playing with a vibrator or blindfolds, watching soft pornography together, or discussing your fantasies over a glass of wine.
Foreplay is an important part of sex that can make it more pleasurable, intense and exciting. It can also be a great way to build trust and connection with your partner.
10. Be passionate.
It’s important for both women and men to feel desired, and this doesn’t just mean in the bedroom. You can show your partner you’re interested in them by flirting with them or throwing compliments their way, and you can nurture emotional intimacy through activities such as a regular relationship check-in or date nights.
Try to keep things exciting in the bedroom by regularly trying something new. This could be anything from a new technique to using toys or having oral sex in places you wouldn’t normally.