Fisting is a great way to explore your anus, but it’s important to do it safely. Follow these tips to have a safe and pleasurable experience.
Remember that the anus has three different sphincters. The one at the end is called the distal sphincter and guards the entrance to the lower anal colon and upper rectum, where your body stores poop.
1. Wash Your Hands
You should wash your hands before and after anal fisting to avoid getting any bodily fluids (like poop) on yourself. You should also make sure your nails are trimmed and that you’re wearing latex gloves. This is important for both parties involved in anal fisting because poop could contaminate your hands and/or your partner’s.
When you’re ready to get started, it’s best to relax and get yourself a little aroused. This will help loosen up the sphincters and make your anal experience more pleasurable.
It’s a good idea to practice anal stretching with smaller dilators before moving on to fisting with a larger dildo or even a penis. You can do this by using one finger in the anal canal at a time, and then slowly inserting more fingers as you become more comfortable with anal fisting.
You’ll need to have lube handy for anal fisting, as it isn’t always easy to reach inside the anal canal. Goldstein recommends starting with a silicone-based lube like Uberlube or water-based Good Clean Love, while Saynt prefers the oil-based BoyButter.
2. Wear Latex Gloves
Fisting involves putting fingers directly up the anus, and while it might seem intimate it can be very dangerous for beginners. Whether you’re the giver or the receiver, fisting without proper knowledge and experience can lead to pain and tears.
You can easily contract or transmit STIs when fisting. This is because bodily fluids from the hand entering the anus can carry germs. Using gloves can reduce this risk, so make sure you’re wearing them if you’re going to be anal fisting.
Gloves can also protect your skin from friction, which will make anal play more comfortable for both parties. Gloves can be made from a variety of materials, so choose one that fits you well and is easy to clean. Latex is a popular choice because it’s stretchy and comfortable, while leather provides a more heavy-duty feel and experience. Double-check the glove’s measurements to ensure it will fit correctly. Douching is also a good idea, as it will help limit contact with fecal matter. After finishing your session, both partners should hop in the shower and thoroughly wash and disinfect their hands and forearms.
3. Get Aroused
Anal fisting can be an extremely sexual experience. Some people even orgasm from it. However, it is not for beginners or anyone who hasn’t had anal play before. As with any type of butt play, both partners must agree on their safe words and be able to halt the session at any time.
To minimize the risk of fecal contamination, both the giver and the receiver should do an anal cleanse before fisting. This means doing a good douching routine, taking plenty of fiber, and drinking plenty of water in the days leading up to the fisting session.
Using the right lube is also essential. This should be a thick, silicone-based lube that will stick to the hands and fingers and stretches like the anus. The giver should also be reapplying the lube frequently, especially as they get deeper into the anus. Finally, it’s important to remember that fisting is an advanced form of butt play and requires a lot of communication between both partners. If either partner becomes uncomfortable or nervous, the session should be stopped immediately.
4. Go Slower Than Slow
Fisting can be intense and it’s important that both partners know their boundaries and limits. It’s not recommended for people who are uncomfortable with anal stimulation to fist. If a person wants to give anal fisting a try, they should condition themselves first and do a thorough anal cleanse before starting. Doubling up on lube is also a good idea. It’s important to use a water-based lube that is safe for anal penetration, like J-Lube.
The anus has three different sphincters: two at the opening of the canal and one at the end, called the distal sphincter. When people insert things in their anus, they’re more likely to reach the third sphincter and touch fecal matter, which can be unpleasant and possibly painful. Douching can help to avoid this.
To anal play, it’s best to start with a finger and build up to bigger toys like a dildo or a penis. It’s also important to communicate with your partner the whole time and make sure you’re both relaxed. With proper preparation, anal fisting can be a very pleasurable experience!
5. Use Lube
Fisting can be a very intimate experience for partners, and many people want to add it to their sexual repertoire. However, it is important to remember that anal play can be very intense and painful for the receiver. This is why it is important to communicate with your partner about their boundaries and expectations and always use plenty of lube when fisting.
It is also a good idea to use a high-quality anal lube, such as the EZ-Squeeze gel-like formula that makes it easy to squeeze and is safe for latex condoms. Using a thick, long-lasting lube can help decrease the risk of anal tearing and make the play more pleasurable for both partners.
While most anal stroking in porn is pretty rough and forceful, real anal fisting tends to be much more gentle and intimate, especially for beginners. It is also a good idea to use foreplay and anal toys before you and your partner try this technique, to help the anus stretch and prepare. It is also a good idea to agree on a safe word or signal to use if either partner feels uncomfortable at any time.